Published For you in Live Enlighten - Aug 31, 2021.
How To Get What You Want? No Advices, Just Strategies
The things that you want, whether it is a relationship, or a goal or a dream, do you really want it?
“If you want anything with utmost desire, the whole universe conspires in getting that for you.” You may have heard this quote so many times. This is a quote from the book Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.
The meaning of the quote is so true that the whole universe will help you in achieving that desire, goal, dream or a relationship that you want with utmost desire. In this article, I am telling you about the exact thing that this quote is all about. You may have wondered about how the universe will help you achieve, or is it even possible etc. So, let me elaborate on the quote.
What do you really want?
Before going to understand how to get what you want, you need to make sure about what you really want. You may have decided on so many things that you want or you may have decided on the goals that you want to achieve. But before deciding on the things that you want, or to achieve, you have to ask yourself if you really want those things or not.
The things that you want, whether it is a relationship, or a goal or a dream, do you really want it? When you ask this question, you are actually going to the values that are deep inside of yourself.
The values are the personal compass that you have with yourself. It shows your true direction of life. There’s a lot more to say about life values, I will say about it elaborately in another article. But let me tell about life values briefly here.
Life values are the values that we cherish in life. Everybody has their own unique life values. Ultimately, the direction of your life is determined by the life values that you have inside of you. If your life values are not in conformation with your work, objectives or goals, you will not be happy or fulfilled with the life you are having.
For example, if your number one value is security and your goal is about becoming an army officer, it probably won’t work out. You will either quit your job, or have a work which is unsatisfactory for your life. There are lots of life values, like love, passion, contribution etc., which you should find out about yourself.
What you really want are things, objectives or goals which provide you with the values that you cherish in your life. You should first of all understand your life values and write it down with the most important at the top. Then find out about the jobs, goals etc., is actually giving you the life values that you have in your life. If it is not, you won’t be satisfied with the things that you do.
Another thing to consider about life values is that, you can change your life values accordingly. But you need to find out about the underlying belief system that your values are based on and change it. Then you can change your values.
Changing your values will change your life. So, what you really want is those that give you the satisfaction of fulfilling your life values. You need to find out your life values first and then decide on what you really want in your life.
Why do you want it?
The next thing to consider about getting what you want is to understand why you want it. There should be a strong, empowering and meaningful foundation for the things that you want in life. You need to ask yourself why you want those that you wish to have.
If you have an answer to that question which is wobbly and lousy, then understand that those are things which are not so important to you. I am not telling that you can’t get those things which are not so important, I am just telling that those things which you do not have a strong answer for why you want it, will not get the satisfaction that you wish to have.
Everything we do is to have the feeling that we wish to have. So, it’s really important to understand why you want it so badly. If you want something so badly, you will have a strong and empowering base to support why you want it and will be in conformation with your life values.
If you want anything with utmost desire, then it means that your life values are in support with what you want. It also means that you will have a strong and meaningful answer to why you want it. If you are in such a state your focus will always be in the direction of how to achieve it, even if you don’t have any method or strategy to achieve it.
You will find more and more ways to achieve those that you want badly in your life. More than that, I personally believe that the whole nature will give you the necessary support in achieving the things that really matter to you.
How to Get What You Really Want?
Once you have understood what you really want and why you really want it, then that is more than enough for you to find a way to achieve them. Maybe you will find so many ways to achieve those that you want. I wish to give you an important point about getting prepared for the actions for achievement. That is about maintaining your emotional level.
Your quality of life is determined by the emotional states that you are in. Ultimately it is all about how you feel about life. So, you need to understand how to maintain your emotional states even in adverse conditions.
The state of mind determines your emotional level. Your state of mind is whether you are in happy, passionate, or sad, depressed states that you are in. It is your mental state right now. At this moment how you are feeling, that is your state of mind. You need to take control of that and make it consistent.
You need to have empowering states like happiness, passion etc., and make it consistent in order to have a strong and life-supporting emotional level. There are two ways in which you can change your state of mind. The first one is to take control of your physiology. Your physiology is your body posture, the tone voice, even your breathing pattern etc. It is all about your body. Have good physiology like if you want to be passionate, you need to have a vibrant body and strong voice, high heart rate etc.
Another way to change your state of mind is to have better, more empowering internal representation. The internal representation is how you represent the external things and events, to yourself. Represent everything to yourself in a positive way and your state of mind will be in positivity. If you need to be passionate, represent everything in a passionate way. If you want to know more about changing your state of mind, read my article about how to deal with disappointment.
